By Victoria Mgbor
“When I met my wife, we did a genotype test and found out that I was AA and my wife was AS. But when my daughter arrived, I found out she was SS.” (This is a big issue.)
“It was a battle, but we managed to flow. Then one thing led to another and something happened.
“I don’t want to go into details, but it was something that could make a man divorce his wife.
“I had scriptural backing for that, but I chose to cover it up so that my marriage would continue.
“Since I couldn’t divorce my wife because of what people would say, I swallowed the bitter pill. I embraced that child and tried to make everything work.
“And somehow she brought an unholy child into the matrimony. I don’t want you to judge my wife, but it led to many battles and family interventions.
”We covered it, but we wouldn’t have gotten to this point if my wife had listened to me when the battle started.
“I also went out and had a child outside wedlock, and then it became another battle. The situation grew so big that some men of God began taking advantage of it, and even some people under me used it against me.
“I’ve tried for seven years to stabilise the vehicle, but it hasn’t been possible. I want you to put the blame on me.
“As it stands now, it has become painful, because when your wife fights you everywhere you go and refuses to settle the matter privately…
“I told her to settle secretly or I would go public, confess my sin, receive the insults, and end the marriage. And that is what I’m doing now.
“She pushed me to this point, confessing my sin to the whole world. I want the world to know.
”I covered her during her time, but when mine came, she threw me to the wall. I feel like ending the struggle. I pleaded with her, but she chose to make me a laughing stock.
“I told her that the day I open up to the world would mark the end of our union, because if you cannot cover me, then I have to end it here. Please pray for us if you love us.”
—Prophet Joshua Iginla (2019)
I have watched several videos and read many articles about men of God who divorced and all I can say is this.
You see a top man of God divorce, they have struggled a lot silently and have probably tried everything possible. The family has endured a lot of unseen troubles.
Also, in most stories, people are quick to take sides with the man of God rather than the wife. The immediate conclusion is usually that the wife is being used by the enemy.
But I submit to you: a marriage can hardly crash if only one person is at fault. There is no marriage where one person is responsible for all the troubles.
Lastly, the marriage of men of God is not necessarily an example. Their marriages are just like any other. The reason you think they are perfect is because they cover things up.
They struggle like every other person. In fact, I think they face more complicated troubles, but they are meant to cover up because of the ministry at stake.
